
Sid Mittra
Ph.D., Economics
Emeritus Professor, OU, Michigan
May 8 is Mother’s Day in America and in the rest of the world. Here’s a special gift for all mothers.
Animal Kingdom Mothers
In this section I will share stories of three mothers in the animal kingdom that are an interesting complement to subsequent stories of human mothers.
1. Mother Fish’s Unbelievable Love
The following is a well-established fact. A fish lays eggs that ultimately give birth to hundreds of hatchlings. The father fish, in a practice known as filial cannibalism, then attempts to kill all of them. Demonstrating her infinite love, the mother fish desperately tries to save them, but succeeds in saving very few. There is no obvious explanation of the father fish’s behavior, except that because of this killing spree, the world maintains a healthy fish population.
Does this dastardly act on the part of the father fish glorify the indisputable love of the mother fish for her children?
2. A Mother Monkey’s Love
Most female and some male animal species love their babies deeply, especially when they are very young, but this bond eventually weakens. It has been shown, however, that years later they remember them when they are reunited.
African researchers designed an experiment to test the limits of an animal mother’s love. A mother monkey and her newborn child were placed in a closed cage connected to an electric heater. As the cage’s temperature was slowly raised, the mother monkey placed the baby on her shoulders so it would be shielded from the heat. When the heat ultimately became unbearable, the mother monkey placed her baby on the floor and climbed on top of it.
What does this research show about the limits of a mother’s love?
3. Confusing the Mother Cow
In India, milk suppliers face a unique problem, because a cow with a newborn baby withholds giving milk until it can sense that the baby cow is ready to drink her milk. However, that creates a problem for the milk suppliers, because the common practice is for the baby cow to be taken away from its mother right after birth so that the mother won’t get too attached to it.
As a result of this practice, the baby cow is not fed, so it dies in just a few days. After its death, the milk suppliers solve their problem by stuffing the baby cow until it looks real and alive. It is then paraded before the mother cow as if it was alive, and then placed at the mother cow’s udder. This chicanery works perfectly every time.
Have you ever heard of such a unique form of mother’s love?
Human Mothers
1. Mother Waiting for Drowned Child
In 1941 I personally experienced the following incident that took place in a Calcutta village that had a popular pond where people came to bathe and swim. My friend, Ram, and I did not swim, so we were prohibited from even coming close to the pond.
One day, curiosity got the better of Ram, so he slipped out of his home at night and went to the pond. Once there, he reached down to touch the water, toppled over into the pond and drowned. His body was recovered the next day.
The story did not end there. Ram’s mother convinced herself that Ram was still under the water, unable to find his way out because of darkness. So, each night she would light a candle, walk to the pond, sit down on the shore, and wait for Ram to see the light. Ram’s mother was still repeating her candle routine for Ram when I left the village a year and a half later.
Was that a sign of mother’s love or a mental disorder?
2. Mother Who Was Not
This is a story of a rich Muslim girl named Pakeeza, who lived in Pakistan, which, until 1947, was part of northern India. Pakeeza’s parents sent her to Louisiana State University to earn her Ph.D. degree. There she met, and subsequently fell in love with, Hind, another LSU student, who observed the Hindu religion. Both ultimately recognized the inherent risk of continuing their relationship because of the conflicts between their two religions experienced by their parents. So, they decided to end their relationship.
That did not go well, since neither could concentrate on their studies, and they realized that eventually they would flunk out, which was not an option. So, Pakeeza decided to visit her parents in Pakistan to convince them that times had changed and that they should give their blessing to Pakeeza and Hind resuming their relationship.
The visit turned out to be a total disaster. Pakeeza’s family threw her suitcase out onto the street and warned her never to return. Their family relationship was permanently ended.
Once back at LSU, Pakeeza and Hind decided that they would defy the wishes of their parents and get married. In addition, Pakeeza reluctantly decided that, although she would never give up her right to become a mother, she would never become a mother. To date, she has kept her word, although we will never know if she has had second thoughts.
Is this a unique form of mother’s love? You tell me.
3. Mother’s Impossible Decision
The following story still gives me goose bumps. I heard about it in 1965 when, with a United Nation’s passport, I was allowed to visit Hanoi, Viet Nam, as a tourist. As was generally the case, during the rainy season Hanoi’s rivers flooded, which resulted in multiple injuries and deaths. During that year’s rainy season, one river overwhelmed the town, drowning scores of people. In one case, a mother was swept into the river with her two children. She held on to the children’s hands, hoping that someone would come to her aid, but no one did.
Then the inevitable happened. Eventually, the mother could no longer hold on to two children, so she had no choice but to let one of them go and drown.
No one knows how the mother decided which child she would let go of, knowing the child would drown. If you have any ideas, please let me know.
4. My mother, Taru Mittra
In 1957, when I visited my mother before permanently leaving for America, I expected her to plead with me to reconsider my decision, or at least agree to visit the U.S. for only a year or two. I could not have been more wrong. Her goodbye message to me was crisp, profound, and life changing.
ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH
IF CIRCUMSTANCES DON’T PERMIT THAT, WITHHOLD THE TRUTH
NEVER, BUT NEVER, LIE
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY
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